Nice guys are the worst

Nice guys are the worst.

I know. It sounds weird. But bear with me here.

Nice guys are the ones who do everything « by the book ». Not kind. Not genuine. Just… nice. Not because they understand the deeper meaning of what they do, but because they tick a box.

On a surface level, they’ve done the « right thing », they have opened the door, cooked the meal, sent the text. And yet you feel like your emotional needs are not being met. Trust that instinct. It’s because they are not.

They remain utterly unaware of the deeper emotional core of your needs. Sometimes because they don’t want to understand it. Sometimes because they don’t have the bandwidth to. And you are left with an internal conflict, feeling dissatisfied without really knowing why.

Sometimes you will forgive them an extremely disrespectful move just because « they’re nice».

But here’s the thing. We’re not asking anyone to be nice. We’re asking them to be real. To fully show up. To be present. Not just sending a message every morning to ask how you’re doing.

Here’s the trap: it’s very easy to fall for a nice guy. They do everything right, remember? I’ve fallen for it too.

It’s always pleasant to receive a sweet message, a beautiful compliment or an endearing promise. Words are easy. Effort, on the surface, is easy. But what happens when you need real support? When you are exhausted and need someone to truly show up? Are they still present or do they just send you a « good morning » text?

Nice guys are performing a role destined to satisfy you enough to avoid the deeper investment that a relationship requires. They maintain a superficial happiness so you don’t question what’s missing. Nice guys are the ones who will leave you feeling confused because they are simply unable to meet your deeper truth.

Choose someone real, not someone nice. Nice is easy, nice is surface level. You can be polite with anyone. But can you meet someone else’s depth? That’s the real question you need to ask yourself here.

See beyond the surface of what is shown, what is conveniently on display, and dig deeper. Within yourself first. And then you will be able to decipher it in others too.

In the end, that’s really what it’s all about, isn't it? How deep you are able to meet yourself will determine how deep you can meet others too.

That’s it for today my loves 🤍

As always, love yourselves, be free, and have loads of fun ✨

Elodie